What is a goal you will be working on in the New Year? If you do not achieve that goal, how will you feel? Will you be sad, disappointed, or will you have that “Oh well, I tried” feeling? In terms of intention, you must set your intention for that goal so high, that not reaching that goal is not an option. (See chapter 2 of “If How-To’s Were Enough, We Would All Be Skinny, Rich, and Happy“.)
You can have conflicting commitments, but the bigger one always wins. For example, you may want to lose weight, but not want to be disciplined. You may want to grow your business, but not really want to take risks — i.e. be uncomfortable. Several options to raise your level of intent for what you want are 1) making commitments, 2) putting yourself at risk, and 3) visualization.
Let’s go back to your goal for the New Year as we consider making commitments. Who have you told you would absolutely get it done? If you haven’t told anyone, then the odds are you want it, but it isn’t your intent. If you have children, try making a commitment to them regarding what you will get done in two weeks. Now ask them what they want when you get it done in two weeks. Be sure to negotiate if they ask for something unreasonable! Explain to them that the family is a team and that everyone has different roles. Part of your role is to produce and part of their role is to be supportive of you. If you’re like most parents, you would rather do many uncomfortable things than face your children at the end of two weeks and say, “You don’t get what I promised, because I didn’t get done what I said I would do.” By committing to your children, you have raised and clarified your intent.
As an employee, you could make a commitment to your boss about what you will get done this week. If you are the boss, you could make a commitment to your employees about what you will get done this week or this month.
Many people won’t commit because they are more concerned with looking good than they are with producing. Never sacrifice the power you gain by committing in order to look good by never breaking your word. It’s a poor man’s trade.
Article authored by Brian Klemmer
Tags: making commitments, putting yourself at risk, visualization. setting your intentions high